I just turned 21 and I’m really embarrassed to say this but I’m still a virgin. My boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year now and he understands completely that my family is a bit on the conservative side. And he never pressured me into sex. But I feel that I am quite ready for it now. The thing is, I’m a bit apprehensive about it because of the pain involved. I’ve heard from the girls that I’ve talked to that the first time always hurts, that when the penis enters the vagina and the hymen breaks, there’s always blood and pain. I feel that I am ready to have sex it’s just that my fear is getting the better of me. So what I want to do is get myself ready for it. And if it is possible I would like to break my own hymen. Is there a way to break one’s own hymen? I know this may sound stupid to some but I really want to save myself from the pain of first-time intercourse. Any insights on this would help me a lot. Thanks!